There’s a couple of things going onhere.
One is
that Rena’s absolutely right about what we call this. Stalking, abuse,
harrassment, vandalism are crimes, and they’re not “bullying.” Because
it happens to kids doesn’t mean it’s not the same thing. Enough with
the bullshit.
Second,
I think there’s a tendency to rationalize what happens to you as
necessary to build your character, and while I understand that from a
psychological perspective, I think it leads us too often to minimize it
when it happens to others. Oh, yeah, getting yelled lewd things at in
the hallways made me stronger! I dunno, maybe it did, or maybe it just
sucked a lot and then I learned not to think about it. Regardless, how
I have learned to tell others about it in order to make me the hero
does not allow me to let it happen to somebody else on the off chance
they’ll adopt the same stance to keep from killing themselves.
A.