Fights That Shouldn’t Have to Be Fights

Aimee Stephens, heroine: Stephens’ lawyers argued her firing was a clear example of discrimination because of her sex, and the 6th Circuit agreed. “The unrefuted facts show that the Funeral Home fired Stephens because she refused to abide by her employer’s stereotypical conception of her sex,” the court wrote in a 49-page decision. “Discrimination against employees, either because of their failure to conform to sex stereotypes or their transgender and transitioning status, is illegal under Title VII,” the court said. “It is analytically impossible to fire an employee based on that employee’s status as a transgender person without being motivated, … Continue reading Fights That Shouldn’t Have to Be Fights

Not Everything Sucks

Nina Simone existed, and her music still does:  Looking at Nina Simone’s statue in downtown Tryon, I recite the end of Rainer Maria Rilke’s poem, “Archaic Torso of Apollo,” which reads, “for here there is no place / that does not see you. You must change your life.” Rilke wrote the poem while staring, entranced, at a headless statue from Auguste Rodin that dazzled him to the point of imperative transformation. Now, almost exactly one hundred years later, I am standing in front of the eight-foot bronze statue of Nina Simone. I find most of the music I really love … Continue reading Not Everything Sucks

A Product of Their Times

Apropos of being reminded of the existence of an acquaintance I’d memory-holed but apparently forgotten to unfriend, nothing makes me crazier than the idea that someone was just A PRODUCT OF THEIR TIME. Oh, he’s an old man, let him be racist and sexist and garbage and shitty to you and in front of you, he’s a product of his time. You know who else was a product of their time? Sophie Scholl. Sojourner Truth. Fred Hampton. Every single goddamn Freedom Rider. Ida B. Wells was a product of her time. Nellie Bly, too. Every last one of the Tuskegee … Continue reading A Product of Their Times

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Can’t stop the celebration signal:  A huge part of Ramadan is about the community, Ismail said. Not just getting together with family and friends for iftar meals to break fast at the end of the day, but eating with strangers and gathering with large groups to celebrate in the mosque. He wanted to try to emulate that in a game that has been so appealing to people in quarantine precisely because of the community aspect. He put out a call on Twitter, offering to host people to celebrate Ramadan on his island, and very quickly got a lot of responses … Continue reading Not Everything Sucks

Distance

Here are some numbers. My mother had me when she was 21 years old. I had my daughter when I was 38. For most of their lives, my mother lived six blocks away from her mother, who was 35 years old when my mother was born. Since I turned 17, I have never lived closer than 70 miles from my mom. This past fall I flew 800 miles to be at the wedding of a girl I love like my own daughter. I left my own daughter behind, in the care of my mother. For four days we were those … Continue reading Distance

Who the Heroes Have Always Been

When this is over, I want a national day of celebration and ticker tape parades down every main street for drs, nurses, hospital staff, grocery store stockers, truckers, teachers, delivery people, and restaurant workers. — Dr. Sarah Parcak (@indyfromspace) March 22, 2020 Last night I was putting Kick through her evening paces — bathing, teeth-brushing, cat-petting, story-reading, delaying, water-getting, more delaying, singing, one-more-hugging — and I heard my neighbors outside yelling Bon Jovi songs into the air. My friends and I text each other constantly: You okay? I’m going out, need anything? Skype, chat, check-ins, bitching about small stuff, who … Continue reading Who the Heroes Have Always Been

Not Everything Sucks

I mean, kind of it does. but people have this phenomenal capacity:  PARIS (AP) — In the age of confinement, Elisha Nochomovitz figured out a way to run a marathon anyway – back and forth on his balcony. That’s right. He ran 42.2 kilometers (26.2 miles) straight, never leaving his 7-meter-long (23-foot) balcony. He saw it as a physical and mental challenge, but he also shared the images online as a way “to extend my support to the entire medical personnel who are doing an exceptional job,” he told The Associated Press from his apartment in Balma, a suburb of … Continue reading Not Everything Sucks

You Already Know Where It Goes

So here’s what’s gonna happen. A lot of people are going to get sick. They won’t know for sure if they’re sick, because there aren’t enough tests, and nobody can afford the ones that we do have. Because nobody will know anything for sure, and a lot of people will be sick, most businesses will stay closed. Most will be unable to pay their employees, so a lot of people are going to be sick and broke. Sick broke people make decisions aimed at not being sick or broke no more. Not all of those decisions will be harmless to … Continue reading You Already Know Where It Goes

Not Everything Sucks

FREE BOOKS.  I’m sure you all were on this way before I was but I figured out how to do this finally YESTERDAY and I’m already halfway through a book I’ve been thinking about reading for YEARS and I finished Gideon the Ninth which you all need to read so we can talk about lesbian necromancers in space and what everyone’s deal might actually be, so on the off chance you didn’t know you could do this, you should do this immediately instead of being on Twitter all day or in addition to it. It will improve your life. A. Continue reading Not Everything Sucks

Not Everything Sucks

Molly Seidel exists:  Getting to the start line of the trials was a victory in itself. Seidel would not have believed it was possible just six months ago. “And if they told me, ‘You’re going to get second at the Olympic trials marathon,’ I’d be like, ‘OK, that’s funny.’” Seidel has shared her struggles with disordered eating, and knew that recovery would not be easy. She told Runner’s World that she turned down sponsorship offers four years ago when she was not emotionally ready to turn professional despite her success at Notre Dame. “Your long-term health is more important than running … Continue reading Not Everything Sucks

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This guy exists:  Stewart never expected this to become his life’s calling. It goes back to the Great Recession, which began in December 2007, when he was working as a veterinarian at an “economically challenged” animal shelter in Modesto, California, and was overwhelmed by the sheer number of stray animals who needed help. He wanted to show his young son the importance of giving back, so one day, he went to a soup kitchen with his son and girlfriend and started asking people with pets if he could examine their animals. “I knew then and there I was going to keep doing … Continue reading Not Everything Sucks

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Jalaiah Harmon exists:  Though Jalaiah is very much a suburban kid herself — she lives in a picturesque home on a quiet street outside of Atlanta — she is part of the young, cutting-edge dance community online that more mainstream influencers co-opt. The Renegade dance followed this exact path. On Sept. 25, 2019, Jalaiah came home from school and asked a friend she had met through Instagram, Kaliyah Davis, 12, if she wanted to create a post together. Jalaiah listened to the beats in the song “Lottery” by the Atlanta rapper K-Camp and then choreographed a difficult sequence to its chorus, … Continue reading Not Everything Sucks

Not Everything Sucks

Roger Angell is still with us:  In 1962, Shawn decided that The New Yorker needed more sports pieces, and, knowing that I was a fan, asked if I wanted to go down to Florida and write something about spring training. I was surprised he even knew there was such a thing. I’d never been to spring training, so I said yes, thank you, and went down to the White Sox camp, in Sarasota, where I found the little wooden stadium jammed with elderly fans watching the young stars. Later stops at larger parks in St. Petersburg and Tampa confirmed this peaceable view … Continue reading Not Everything Sucks

Happy New Year

This one was a motherfucker and next one’s gonna be worse. Sorry. You here for consolation? Wrong shop, chief. I wrote this in the wee hours of the morning after Trump’s election, and the fight was barely hours in coming, and we’ve been losing ever since, every day, on everything: Charlottesville, Kavanaugh, Gallagher, abortion, the ACA, the Muslim ban, the border camps, every single fucking day it’s another kick in the guts. You tired? Anybody here fucking tired? (We’re all so, so tired.) They’re counting on us being tired. Go get a B12 shot, take your stims with a shot … Continue reading Happy New Year

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Can’t stop the signal:  Since October, a wave of anti-government protests has swept across Iraq. The protesters represent a cross-section of society and, unusually for a traditionally patriarchal country, women have taken a leading role. Their prominence is celebrated in murals which have sprung up across the capital, Baghdad. Baghdad’s Tahrir Square, epicentre of the protests, has been transformed into a hub of creative defiance. I won’t repost the photos so you have to go to the link to look at them all. They’re gorgeous. One of the most frustrating things about the post-9/11 discourse was the half-assed discussion on … Continue reading Not Everything Sucks

On Ice

Kick loves ice skating. As a profoundly un-athletic person whose only physical effort was a running routine that went tits-up after my back got destroyed three years ago, I have refused to invest any emotional energy into my child’s physical prowess. I have no idea if she can do a somersault. She runs kickball bases like a drunk freshman headed for Taco Bell. It’s all fine. She’s tried soccer and tennis with middling enthusiasm, but last winter, she begged to go skating. Her first lesson, she spent on her butt. I mean, typical, of course, but she didn’t know that, … Continue reading On Ice

At Your Expense

Cybertruck: Tesla truck gets 150,000 orders despite launch gaffe https://t.co/z3tegxoDKi — BBC News (UK) (@BBCNews) November 24, 2019 Everybody had a good time clowning on this, and on this asshole, who says things like this:  We successfully launched the Falcon Heavy rocket, which is the most powerful rocket in the world by a factor of two. So that’s twice the power, twice the thrust of the next biggest rocket. And we actually launched a Tesla — my Tesla Roadster — to Mars orbit. The reason we did that is actually because, normally, when a new rocket is launched, you just put a … Continue reading At Your Expense

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  The Mandalorian exists and is good: We’re only three eps in and so there’s still a lot of clunky “this is the character that I am, allow me to say aloud my most defining traits so that you may see them” dialogue, but it’s very Original Three Star Wars in that everything looks broken and messed up. Everything in Star Trek always looked like a theater company worked really hard to paint it nice; Star Wars was like three stoners realized they had a diorama due the next day and glued an answering machine to a toaster. This, despite … Continue reading Not Everything Sucks

Not Everything Sucks

This guy’s still catching lobster:  John shows me the lobster fisherman’s license he received at age 16. Dated July 1, 1938, the creased and torn document is a remnant from the Depression, when lobsters sold for 15 cents a pound. After high school, he bought a brand-new boat, paying for it the Maine way: “I went into the woods and cut 100 cords of pulpwood with a bucksaw and ax,” John remembers. “There weren’t no chainsaws.” Via Virgotex. A. Continue reading Not Everything Sucks

Asylum

These are the people we’re turning our backs on:  The first two months at the Kenosha Detention Center felt like a nightmare. You are so enclosed you don’t have the opportunity to move around. That’s how you start going crazy. That’s how Kenosha was for me. The detention center was a mix of immigrants and actual criminals. We were in the same detention as criminals who’ve committed murders, gang bang, and stuff. You don’t have time to rest. You don’t have the pleasure of going outside to play or having social time—none of that. At the detention center, you don’t … Continue reading Asylum

The Capacity for Joy

If they haven’t taken it from Ilhan Omar you don’t get to despair: Some Really Sikh Captain America action with @IlhanMN captured by @nategowdy pic.twitter.com/jULMiNG5VK — Vishavjit Singh (@sikhtoons) October 29, 2019 I get that it’s easier to say “meh, nothing’s going to change, Trump’s going to get re-elected because the Democrats are having a primary” than it is to look at everybody fighting like hell and decide you need to do that too, but come on. If the very faces of what Trump’s supporters hate can dance, you can work. I post these “not everything sucks” posts not to … Continue reading The Capacity for Joy

Punishment is the Point

I wrote this shortly after Trump took office and it remains true even if no one listened:   FOR TRUMP means they get to bully right back. FOR TRUMP means they get to tell their liberal sister-in-law that she’s a stupid bitch. FOR TRUMP means instead of respecting a black or brown person, they get to call that person names. FOR TRUMP means they get to turn off that nagging instinct, nurtured by the churches they say mean so much to them, that maybe they should help the big scary world that’s burning down outside their windows. FOR TRUMP means they get to … Continue reading Punishment is the Point

Our Politicians and Pundits Know Nothing About Politics

This was dumb: Pete Buttigieg says he wants more Supreme Court justices who are like Justice Kennedy. The same Justice Kennedy who voted to uphold Trump's Muslim ban, voted for the Janus decision gutting labor unions, and voted to uphold voter suppression in Husted pic.twitter.com/zeDtWUVQpz — Brian Tashman (@briantashman) October 24, 2019 This was dumber: For 3 Hours a day, we call out corrupt politicians. We call out Trump. If u want to make your voice heard, vote. I understand the chanting at the game-But, I worry it is dangerous when it happens-On both sides. It’s been a consistent concern … Continue reading Our Politicians and Pundits Know Nothing About Politics

Sunday Catblogging: Our Heroine

Last week I wrote that post about what a bitch Ada was and how she never shuts up about anything ever, so I basically deserve what happened yesterday. It had been raining all day so Kick and Mr. A and I took advantage of being forced indoors to clean out closets and prep the house for an onslaught of holiday visitors and figure out where the mates to all our gloves had gone over the summer. The cats get profoundly, comically offended when we clean, as if us moving things is a personal affront to them and they were very, … Continue reading Sunday Catblogging: Our Heroine

A Diversity of Views

Do we? Do we need this?  Zuckerberg on Breitbart: "Part of having this be a trusted source is that it needs to have a diversity of basically views in there. I think u want to have content that represents different perspectives but is doing so in a way that complies with the standards we have for this." — Jeremy Barr (@jeremymbarr) October 25, 2019 I’m asking, because I don’t actually grant that we do. Do we need the “view” that Bill Kristol, however abominable he may be, is a “renegade Jew?” Do we need the “view” that there exists in … Continue reading A Diversity of Views

Not Everything Sucks: Baking Edition

It’s cold and rainy here. You know what that means: It’s gingerbread season, motherfuckers. Here’s one of my favorite recipes. Here’s another, which is labor-intensive but results in this fluffy spicy heavenly cake that my little sister used to beg me to make every Christmas. It’s got all the yum but none of the “ya basic” judgement now shamefully associated with that most heavenly of things, pumpkin spice. Fuck everyone who hates on pumpkin spice, by the way. You can tear my overpriced calorically bloated latte from my cold dead mitten-clad hands, and the same goes for my Pumking beer. … Continue reading Not Everything Sucks: Baking Edition