It is Just a Matter of Time



The line to marry is out the door.

9:30 AM: Ehhalt interviewsRoger and Ron,
the first folks in line to get married, should the stay be lifted. “If
it doesn’t happen, it’s just a matter of time, it it does, well, we’re
here” they said.

It is just a matter of time. For people seeking justice, it is just a matter of time. The bigots get tired. The bigots go home. The bigots get old and they die off. The bigots are turned away from the courthouse steps with a great big mightyfuck youand I know that’s easy for me to say, being a middle-class white chick married to a guy, but tell me it’s untrue. Tell me our entire lives haven’t been, from one end to the other to the ending of the world, the story of an inexorable march forward. Slow, fast, sometimes in leaps and bounds and sometimes in horrible, agonizing crawling over gravel on our knees, but forward nonetheless.

Why do you think they fight back so hard, the bigots and the loonies and the ten-a-penny fascisti? Because from where their God sits, from a way-up-high place of disapproval and fear, they’re losing. From where their cruel and capricious God sits, they’re being beaten back. Year after year after year, though they might howl and screech, they’re losing. More people now approve of marriage equality than don’t. More people now don’t give a fuck one way or the other, probably, to put it more precisely. More people would rather Fred Phelps and his spiritual allies not scream in their faces. More people don’t see the goddamn point anymore, of hating anybody that much based on who that anybody loves.

It is just a matter of time. And when and if justice comes, no matter how long it lasts, people like these will be there, long after those fighting against them have gone.



7 thoughts on “It is Just a Matter of Time

  1. I would like to associate myself with the gentle lady’s remarks.
    Shorter Athenae: “The arc of the moral universe is long, but it bends toward justice.” – Theodore Parker

  2. I really feel for them having to go through the daily reversal on whether it is legal or not. It is OK. It is not OK. It is OK. It is not OK…
    Seems to be a way of adding to the cruelty.

  3. We also have to keep looking forward, past marriage.
    As fraught with difficulty as it has been, marriage is still a much easier battle than many others that are just as necessary. Gays marrying represents to some extent, gays coming into the recognized fold of “normalcy.” Being included in a recognizable common set shared by lots of other people.
    But outside of that, there’s a large part of the LGBTQ community that has no wish to marry, and that should be legitimate too. Non-conformity is a big part of our cultural heritage and it should remain so. A great deal of our strength comes from this.
    Any sexual “identity” from celibacy to sex-positivity to the more transgressive end of the spectrum. (not just for queers) should be okay. Sexuality (conscious,consensual) should be okay, period. Also, of course, a full range of gender identity, not just the “usual” boxes.

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