Boom. Boom. Boom. Boom.

The book of love has music in it
In fact that’s where music comes from
Some of it is just transcendental
Some of it is just really dumb
but I love it when you sing to me
and you you can sing me anything
The book of love is long and boring
and written very long ago
It’s full of flowers and heart-shaped boxes
and things we’re all too young to know
but I love it when you give me things
and you ought to give me wedding rings
-Stephin Merritt
Disappointed? Of course. But not surprised.

I timed my lunch break so I could hear the court decision on Prop 8 today. Honestly, my first reaction was relief that the 18,000 couples already married would retain their rights. That did surprise me, because I thought if the court was going to uphold it, they would “disappear” those marriages to avoid the resulting legal conundrum.

But that didn’t happen and I was relieved and that was my first reaction. And yeah, I know that’s not particularly politically astute of me, only seeing part of the picture.

Even via Twitter, good neighborLesbianDad (as usual) summed the bigger picture up perfectly:
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It was because of her family, my sweet friends Jeff and William, IRL married friends and those spread all over the blogosphere, that I felt that first, imperfect, selfish, visceral relief. That those (relatively) few families made it into the lifeboats, that they wouldn’t go to bed tonight with their legal rights in question.

Then I got mad about the rest of it. Especially as the afternoon wore on, as protestors got arrested, and our president remained conspicuously silent. Especiallywhen this happened:

Q Robert, do you have any reaction to the California Supreme Court decision on Prop 8?

MR. GIBBS: I have not talked to the President about it. I think the issues involved are ones that you know where the President stands.

Really Robert? Sure, Candidate Obama was damned outspoken but I am not as certain wherePresident Obama stands. All I heard today was crickets. I don’t care that he was busy with his SCOTUS pick and Harry Reid’s fundraiser either, because there were a lot otherfierce advocates who took the time and trouble to offer support today. Also because he is the President and it’s his job to be busy.

At day’s end, though, what I am left with is not just hope, but determination. Also, the certainty, the absolute surety of knowing, that even though this battle isn’t over, hate and bigotry and fear and backward-thinking have already lost the war. It is inevitable. I know this today more than ever.

Someone who’s been at this much, much longer than all the rest of us thinks so too.Veteran LGBT activist Phyllis Lyon, age 84:

I’m optimistic about the future. Look at all the states that have now done this. Boom. Boom. Boom. Boom. They may not all last. But it’s going to be all right. It may not be while I’m alive, but eventually it will work out that if two people want to get married, they can get married and it won’t matter to whom. We went through this before with people of color. It will be OK.

2 thoughts on “Boom. Boom. Boom. Boom.

  1. BUT HEY! it taint ALL bad. so of you icky people got married.
    sorry about the rest of you. you just have to wait.
    california is as fucked up as ever.

  2. Same-sex marriage has been legal here for years, and the world did not end. When it happens for good in the US, the world won’t end either… In the meantime, aux armes, citoyen(ne)s!

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