Not One Single Step Back

It’s easy for me to say look how far we’ve come, after all. I’m married to who I want to be married to and there’s really no danger of some “family” values pecksniff coming along and dissolving that marriage because it upsets his worldview to think of my life.But look how far we’ve come.

Proposition 8 serves no purpose, and has no effect, other than to lessen the status and human dignity of gays and lesbians in California, and to officially reclassify their relationships and families as inferior to those of opposite-sex couples,” said Judge Stephen Reinhardt in the majority opinion.

“The Constitution simply does not allow for laws of this sort.”

Just look at that.

Clown Hall, of course, is losing its fucking mindabout this:

Opponents, including senior counsel for the Alliance Defense Fund, Brian Raum, want to see the issue brought to a larger 9thCircuit panel and to the U.S. Supreme Court:

“We are not surprised that this Hollywood-orchestrated attack on marriage — tried in San Francisco — turned out this way. But we are confident that the expressed will of the American people in favor of marriage will be upheld at the Supreme Court.”


Also Hollywood. Forget all those chicks Warren Beatty banged. They were all beards. Everyone who has ever been in a movie is gay. Especially Clint Eastwood.

I just keep wishing we could fast-forward through the next ten years or so, because I can see it so clearly, where we’re going. I can see it in the GOP crackup going on tonight in the primaries, I can see it in the sad and angry bear-baiting going on on the conservative blogs. I can see it happening, see us moving forward, and I wish we could just skip the parts where everyone denies what’s going to happen, and get to the end where love wins.

Because it will. It always has. Because we make it happen.

Every chance we get, we move things forward. Every chance. And yes, every time we take a step forward somebody shoves us a step back, but they’re not the point. Our job isn’t to make them stop shoving. Our job is to keep moving forward. To keep changing and growing and pushing each other, to keep widening our definition of what it means to love each other and take care of each other. To keep making it a bigger and bigger job, and then to do that job the best we can.

And we keep doing it. We keep pushing forward. A step and then another step and then another, and in the end we look back five years, ten years, twenty, and see not how many times we’ve been shoved back but how many times we got back up and kept moving.


4 thoughts on “Not One Single Step Back

  1. Never retreat, never surrender. We care, even those of us who aren’t gay, care and will keep pushing and pushing and pushing. This is about human dignity, and if we don’t give it to others, we can never expect it for ourselves.
    I think this is the one core problem we face, the Right think Same-sex marriage is a core problem, because it threatens their ability to see themselves in some version of the 1950’s that never existed.
    I say the issue is about human dignity, and if we don’t extend the ability to live, love and be happy to everyone, it creates and presupposes the attitudes that have led to a nation of a small elite and a vast dehumanized minority. Because if you are willing to take the humanity from someone else to make yourself feel bigger, you are by proxy willing to let it be taken from you by your “betters” and think it natural.
    We’re all in this thing together.

    OMFG – brilliant. Thank you!!

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