You do not desire forgiveness:
"We have withheld forgiveness because you do not desire it."
As if that's what forgiveness is about. You forgive because forgiveness allows you to let go of hate and fear, to stop pulling them around you and using them to keep you separate from other people. Forgiveness isn't about making the other person beg for it. Forgiveness isn't about the other person deserving it. Forgiveness is a reaching outward, and that's the part of the action that counts.
Something which clearly passed by the theological scholars of this particular church as they pored over their Bibles in search of a way to make themselves smaller and meaner and colder.