There’s a moment in Barbie that resonated with a lot of women who saw it, where America Ferrera, beloved by so many of us for her role on Ugly Betty, explains the tension women live in. Here’s the part I thought of Tuesday:

But always stand out and always be grateful. But never forget that the system is rigged. So find a way to acknowledge that but also always be grateful.

I was thinking about it because the Oscar nominations were announced on Tuesday, and Greta Gerwig, who directed the first wholly woman-directed film to earn a billion dollars at the box office, a movie hailed by men and women for its humor and truth, was snubbed in the Best Director category, and the movie’s lead, Margot Robbie, was snubbed in the Best Leading Actress category.

Now Gerwig was nominated in 2 categories for the strength of her writing, and those are prestigious categories for the wonderful script. But, you know, it’s not Best Director. I want to know why it wasn’t Kenough. After all Ryan Gosling was nominated as Best Supporting Actor for his role as Ken. And it’s well-deserved.

I just watched Barbie again with my husband a few weeks ago, and he thought it was great. But Barbie made a lot of men angry with its depiction of a society where women held all of the leadership roles, and the group that picks the contenders is still, to borrow a phrase from the movie, a “mojo dojo casa house”.

Plus the movie itself wasn’t taken very seriously by men. Look at what happened at the Golden Globes, a few weeks ago:

Less than three minutes into his opening monologue at the 81st Golden Globe Awards, host and comedian Jo Koy dropped his first of a series of controversial jokes: “‘Oppenheimer’ is based on a 721-page Pulitzer Prize-winning book about the Manhattan project, and ‘Barbie’ is on a plastic doll with big boobies!”

Women’s issues aren’t real issues. We already know that based on how women are paid, and how in some states they are prohibited access to vital health care. So a movie that touches on things that are important to a lot of women is ipso facto not an important, especially as it uses humor to make its points. It is what it is.

Here’s America Ferrera’s, also nominated in the Best Supporting Actress category, awesome monologue from Barbie: